The "To" and "Fro" of Desire

Desire stems from our sense of wholeness. It comes in two main flavors: 

Desire Toward (To) and Desire From (Fro).

Desire Toward comes from a state of fragmentation and motivates us to fulfill a lack, to get something we don’t have, to become something we are currently not, or to change ourselves in some way. We look toward things like objects, experiences, relationships, substances, and status, believing we will feel whole when we acquire the thing we desire. When we get or become that thing, the desire is (in theory) fulfilled. It’s best to be skeptical of Desire Toward because most manipulation is based on triggering our sense of lack. Mass marketing is a great example. Commercials convince us we need things to make us whole, motivating us to make the purchase. When something is motivating you through a Desire Toward, it is important to be aware of what is happening, who is benefiting, and how the benefit is being extracted.

On the other hand, Desire From comes inherently from a place of wholeness, love, and connection. It is the natural byproduct of the energies and narratives in harmony within our core “I am.” Desire From pushes us to use what we have, to connect, and to share. It is important to distinguish which desire is motivating us because Desire To can masquerade as Desire From. When we act from a place of hurt, we seek to connect and share as a way of resolving a lack. In doing so, we can end up unintentionally hurting others. This potential confusion is why self-intimacy and healing are so important. The relationship we have with ourselves—our personal unison—colors and influences every other relationship we have and every action we take. If we don’t know what is at our core, we can’t truly relax and allow ourselves to flow with the divine. Developing our personal connection to the divine and our ability to effectively self reflect enables us to more easily and powerfully understand what is motivating us.